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Queer. Neurodivergent. Business Mentor. Singing Teacher. Alternative Educator. Passionate about intersectionality and helping make the world a better place.

How do you pick one single photo to represent everything that you are? Whether you know it or not, you’ve done it. And so have I, but not without a giant struggle first.

I’ve tested lots of different photos over the last year as my new potential profile photo for my Instagram. But I’ve never clicked save.

A montage of 8 photos of Becki in a range of different outfits with various facial expressions including laughing, smiling, and a slight knowing smirk.
A montage of 8 photos of Becki in a range of different outfits with various facial expressions including laughing, smiling, and a slight knowing smirk.

The glaringly obvious reason for this is my ADHD. Executive dysfunction, difficulty making decisions, people-pleasing, and perfectionism are just a few things that come with my ADHD. …


This is a follow on piece to: My Shameful Secret: I’ve Always Believed I’m Lazy

With the UK lockdown has come a lot of changes for me — both personally and professionally. Back in March 2020 I moved all my lessons online overnight, and after a month or so, I had to massively reduce my teaching hours due to screen tiredness and being emotionally drained. This combined with some students leaving for various reasons, got me quite worried about my financial situation.

However, at the same time, my company (OmniArts GB) was growing. Within the first few months of lockdown…


“It’s not that difficult.”

“If you really want to do something, you’ll do it.”

“Stop procrastinating.”

“You’re just being lazy.”

A small grey tabby kitten is lying on their back on a soft white blanket. Their paws are out to the side and eyes closed.
A small grey tabby kitten is lying on their back on a soft white blanket. Their paws are out to the side and eyes closed.

I was 29 years old when I was diagnosed with ADHD.

I experienced all the emotions. Anger, frustration, pride, upset, confusion, determination*, but mostly relief. I finally had an answer to why I find it so difficult to get started on things.

I’m not “just lazy”. It’s executive dysfunction.

Anyone who knows me would be stunned to learn that I’ve spent my whole life thinking I’m lazy. I run several successful businesses and earn my living from being 100% self-employed.

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